69 Sex Position

69 Sex Position

69 sex position Because most of today's sexual culture in America has moved away from the age of foreplay, meaningful sex, and spiritual sexual encounters, most people don't know the origin of the 69 position—also known as cunnilingus. The erotic position dates back thousands of years and has its roots in Taoism. Taoism suggests that mutual oral sex creates a unique energy that causes an exchange of spiritual harmony within two people. ...

Does Size Matter?

Does Size Matter?

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Penis Size

So, does penis size matter? A recent study done by Durex revealed the top-ten Googled sex questions in the world. Making the list at number six was, “How to get a bigger penis manually?”1 This statistic epitomizes the validity of the curse—men’s insecurity with their phallus ranked six in a global Google search; point made. The size, shape, texture, and color of a penis and testicles are a valid concern among men and women. So much so, the medical profession has given it a term. Some doctors refer to small penis syndrome as penile dysmorphic disorder (PDD), but the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) does not list PDD as a separate disorder. Instead, it includes PDD as a variant of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). Some symptoms of small penis syndrome or PDD include: ...

The Hiding Places

The Hiding Places

the hiding place I grew up in a home where my siblings were older, and my parents both worked—the key hidden under the mat, and the house silent when I arrived. I had no choice but to invent my own trustworthy invisible friends and playground. So, I created them all in my secret hiding places. My friends were made up superheroes, and my playground consisted of closets filled with old clothes, an attic crowded with books and relics, a basement complete with secret spaces, and a backyard shed filled with tools. As a child, these became my safe world. They were a place no one could see the person I was; no government or authority could reprove me because everything that happened there was imaginary and secret. ...

Touch Deprivation

Touch Deprivation

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Some of you may be asking, "Is this even a thing?"

CASE STUDY "In the United States, 1944, an experiment was conducted on 40 newborn infants to determine whether individuals could thrive alone on basic physiological needs without affection. Twenty newborn infants were housed in a special facility where they had caregivers who would go in to feed them, bathe them and change their diapers, but they would do nothing else. The caregivers had been instructed not to look at or touch the babies more than what was necessary, never communicating with them. All their physical needs were attended to scrupulously and the environment was kept sterile, none of the babies becoming ill. ...

Domestic Violence Defined

Domestic Violence Defined

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What is Domestic Violence?

“The University of Michigan has released a list of relationship behaviors that it considers violent and abusive—including “withholding sex.” “Discounting the partner’s feelings regarding sex,” “criticizing the partner sexually,” and “having sex with other people” are also examples of “sexual violence,” according to the list.” 1 ...

The Naked Truth

The Naked Truth

Many of my followers and friends have probed me in the last several years about my position on monogamy—more specifically, asking, “Have you ever had an affair?” I felt it was time to address the inquiry and divulge the whole truth. As some of you may know, I have been married to the same woman for nearly thirty-five years. We’ve had five beautiful children together, and spent thirty of those years pastoring in several churches. ...

Spiritual BDSM

Spiritual BDSM

bdsm lingerie picture People from all walks of life participate in some form of BDSM. I know that may sound shocking. But in a fundamental sense, it’s been used to punish a partner in some emotional or physical way—as in: “Sleep on the couch; No sex for you … you don’t deserve it …” This type of treatment is naturally performed without the essence of love or seduction; instead, it’s used to retaliate and cause suffering for unresolved or selfish purposes. This is one example of many that I could cite. It’s an unsanctified act of domination—don’t kid yourself, couples use it continuously. Concluding there’s a hell of a lot of people using BDSM tactics in an abusive manner and protesting the BDSM community; #hypocrisy. ...

Having An Affair

Having An Affair

Unfaithful Sex 

There’s been an endless amount of material presented on the detriments of having an affair. But can any good come from such an unfaithful encounter? I realize that some people of faith will read this with a one-dimensional perspective. However, the Bible is jam-packed with affairs—most of them swept under the rug and justified. So, let’s forget all that bullshit for now and look at reality for a moment. ...

Playing With Sex Toys

Playing With Sex Toys

Should you be using sex toys? 

Unfortunately, we still live in a society that seems confused about sexual freedom and using sex toys during sex. Certain Victorian-era beliefs are still branded in the minds of some people. For example, the double standard of a man enjoying sex is acceptable; however, for a woman to enjoy sex to the same degree, earns her a branding as a whore. This line of thinking is discriminating and cultish. ...

Is Chivalry Dead?

Is Chivalry Dead?

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Chivalry Is Not Dead

The following question is more common than one might think, “Is chivalry dead?” The short answer is no; chivalry is not dead. Chivalry love is alive and well, despite chivalry feminism. I understand that women may feel that the act of chivalry may be interpreted as defining a woman as weak; however, I disagree this broad-brush conclusion. ...

Understanding Chivalry

Understanding Chivalry

One of the most common fears that people have is kindness. Often times, when someone is too kind, the recipient's self-defense mechanism switches on, and an alert pops-up stating, "He or she wants something from you." Let's face it, this is a legitimate concern—everyone's been burned, at one time or another, for being too nice. If a man is going to master the Art of Chivalry, he must understand that his partner may view his kind acts as a prior rerun that may have left some scars. ...